How Long Should He Wait to Propose?
Posted by | Posted in Tips | Posted on 31-10-2009
Just a few years ago, I was 26 years old. I had been with my boyfriend for over two years and all of my friends were either engaged or married. It seemed like it was my turn next, but it also seemed like that might never happen. He never seemed ready to propose to me.
I was in a rush to move on with my life and start a family. I really wanted kids and I wanted him to be the father of my kids.
We had been together for a long time at this point. I didn’t know what was holding him back and I honestly started to wonder if he was having doubts about it all.
At this point, I started to bother him about it here and there, dropping hints wherever I could. This was completely unnecessary, as he was just about ready to drop the question on me anyway. I didn’t know this though.
A few weeks later, I did in fact get what I was asking for. He proposed to me while we were out, and it took my completely by surprise. I was obviously thrilled, and what had seemed like forever had finally happened.
So you might be wondering when a man should propose to his girlfriend. In my case, it was just over two years but I have many friends who have gotten engaged after just a year. Some after even less time. What’s the appropriate amount of time though?
My answer to this question is that it honestly depends on the situation. Some people need to wait until they get more financially secure, and some people really just need to find their way and figure it out on its own.
Still, you definitely have a right to ask. You’re not involved with him just for the sake of wasting your time, and you want to make sure that you’re both of the same mindset when it comes to these things.
Fast forward three years later now. I’m now happily married with a child, and blog about the Little Tikes kitchens and the Little Tikes Cookin’ Fun Interactive Kitchen.
